We are here today at Yizkor
to remember our loved ones. While we are in a large community, we will stand as
individuals and recall personal relationships with parents, siblings, children
and spouses. Maybe we are here today to remember our Mom. Or we are here to
remember our Dad. Or, our brother. Or, a sister. A child. Even if time
has passed, perhaps we are here to a shed a tear as we remember the Great Love
of our Life.
On this day when we don’t
eat or drink, our day is made even more difficult, remembering our loved ones
who have passed.
If they left us this year,
back when we were children,
or any time in between,
Yizkor brings up memories
and often tears.
While we gather as
individuals, look around, right now this expanded room is the fullest it
will be all year. We join as one community to share our grief and pain.
As part of an even larger
community we said goodbye to so many people this year who left their mark
on the national and international stage.
First lady Nancy Reagan,
Justice Antonin Scalia, Muhammad Ali, Arnold Palmer, and people in the arts
like Gene Wilder, Alan Rickman and Harper Lee.
Also included in the list
of those lost this year are two men - both of whom were profoundly influential
in their respective work on behalf of the Jewish people. I want us to remember this morning; two men
who represent two models of Jewish renewal and resilience. One became American,
and built a moral message for Jews and for the world. The other built the
Jewish State. The world, and the Jewish people in particular, lost both Elie
Wiesel and Shimon Peres this year,
Zichronam L’vracha, and the world is poorer for it.
Zichronam L’vracha, and the world is poorer for it.
The next generation will
never have the opportunity to learn first hand from their wisdom, like so many
of us did during their lives.
In Unetane Tokef we read
“mi bkitzo umi lo b’kitzo” Who in the fullness of years and who before? At ages
87 and 93, Elie Wiesel and Shimon Peres lived a fullness of years, but our
world is now bereft because they have passed into the World to Come.
Elie Wiesel and Shimon
Peres lived very different lives.
One started his life in
Transylvania which is now Romania, the other began in Poland which is now
Belarus.
One lived through the Shoah
and documented his experience in a book he called Night. The other
escaped early enough, but members of his family were burned to death, locked in
a synagogue.
About 100 people attended
one of the funerals, across the river in Manhattan. Elie Weisel was laid to
rest in Westchester.
Shimon Peres’ funeral
attracted leaders from 70 nations and he was laid to rest at Mt Herzl in
Jerusalem, in the Great Leaders of the Nation
section between former Israeli Prime Ministers Yitzhak Rabin and Yitzhak
Shamir.
Shimon Peres and Elie
Wiesel knew each other. In 2013, one of these men presented Israel’s
Presidential Medal of Distinction, while the other received it.
When Shimon Peres put the
decoration on Elie Wiesel he praised him and said: "This is a great honor
and privilege for me to bestow upon you the President's Medal. The Holocaust
taught us that killing isn't done just with guns and weapons, but also with
apathy, and you Elie, are saving the world from that apathy. You are waving the
flag of humanity, preventing bloodshed and challenging racism and
anti-Semitism, as well as preventing war. You personally went through the most
atrocious horrors of humanity, and as a Holocaust survivor you chose to
dedicate your life to deliver the message – never again."
Elie Wiesel thanked Shimon
Peres and responded trembling: "I'm completely overwhelmed. Israel is in
the center of my life, and even though I don't live in Israel, Israel lives
within me. I now see myself as an honorary Israeli. Life is composed of
moments, not only years, and this moment is worth an entire life."
Both men loved Israel.
Along the way, both men
followed in the footsteps of Theodore Roosevelt, Lester B Pearson and Dr.
Martin Luther King Jr. and were awarded the Nobel Peace Prize.
And, both men were singled
out by name last week by President Obama in his final Rosh Hashanah address.
Think about how sad we were
when these legendary men passed away. And we did not even know them personally.
They were not just
giant public Jewish figures.
Both Elie Wiesel and Shimon
Peres were fathers, husbands and grandfathers.
We so often remember change-makers
by eulogies made by equally famous people. But we really get to know a person
by the words and thoughts of their immediate family.
When Elisha Wiesel, son of
Elie Wiesel was asked by Tablet Magazine, what
did your father want his legacy to the world to be? This is how he responded:
He wanted
to be thought of as a good Jew. That was the only standard by which he measured
himself. In most conversations, it wasn’t about which president he met or any
of that—all of which was meaningful to him; he valued that he had grown to play
a role on the world stage.
But he
looked at himself as his mother and father and grandparents would have
evaluated him. That was always in his mind, what would they think of him and
his life and what he had made of it.
For him,
the guiding principle that governed that lens was always, “Have I been a good
Jew?”
That meant
many different things to him. If you unpacked what a good Jew was, it meant
being a good human being and a good father; a leader in the community when
leadership was needed; a good husband; someone who respected and brought
respect to the memory and traditions and name of his ancestors; someone who was
humbled by the concept of man’s place in the universe but still felt mandated
to fix the world; and someone who, when approached by people, would make time
to talk with them and make them feel welcomed and listened to.
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You came to shul today for
Yizkor. You will recite the words “in loving testimony to their lives, I pledge
tzedakah to help perpetuate the ideals important to them.”
Can you also stand and
recite the prayers with confidence that you are a “good Jew,” employing
Elie Wiesel’s definition.
Are you a good human being?
Have you been a leader when
leadership was needed?
Are your actions worthy of
respect?
How have you brought
respect to the memory and traditions and names of your ancestors?
How do you think your
parents or grandparents would evaluate you and your relationship to Judaism?
How do you perpetuate the
ideas that are important to them?
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Moments before a young
Shimon Peres - then Shimon Persky - departed with his family to their new life
in Palestine from the Bagdanov station, he faced his grandfather Zvi Meltzer
for the last time. The Old Man cast a deep look into his grandson’s face and
with emotion he uttered his last words to the boy. They were “Be a Jew,
forever.”
At Shimon Peres’ funeral,
Presidents Barack Obama and Bill Clinton spoke, as did the author Amos Oz,
Israeli current President Rivlin and Prime Minister Netanyahu. We got to know
the real Shimon through the words of his children who publicly said
farewell to their father.
In his eulogy, Chemi Peres, his youngest child said:
You kept your promise to
your beloved grandfather, when you bid him farewell on your first stop on the
way to the Land of Israel. You never forgot what it means to be a Jew. And I
promise you that neither will I.
Elie Wiesel’s message: Be a
good Jew.
Shimon Peres’ message: Be a
Jew.
Momentarily, we will stand
and recite the memorial prayers.
Saying the Yizkor prayers
is a way to continue the chain of tradition, to remember
those dear to us who we’ve lost, and to reinforce the fact that for thousands
of years, Jews have been transmitting from generation to generation the values
and the legacy of Judaism.
Yizkor is only recited 4
time a year. Today, and the final days of Pesach, Shavuot and Sukkot. Only 4
days of the year are tasked with ritually remembering the past.
The rest of Judaism is
about perpetuating our future.
When we
conclude Yizkor, take with you the lessons that your parents, children, spouse
and siblings taught you. Take the best of them with you when you exit this
sacred room and then teach them to your children and grandchildren.
Just as the entire Jewish
people, and the entire world can learn from the lives of Elie Wiesel and Shimon
Peres, and take their best values with them, so too must you do that with those
who are gone ….
In Yoni Peres’s eulogy for
his father, he shared the following:
When asked what he would
like to have inscribed on his tombstone after death, Shimon Peres said, without
hesitation, “He was too young to die.” Think about that for a moment.
And then live every day of
your life with this idea in the back of your mind: or, as the poet Mary Oliver
would ask, “what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”